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  • I have a homework assignment for you.
    I think before you make a decision like closing the door on parenthood forever you should have a full picture of what it involves.

    Find a family. Someone with a 4-6 year old kid. One kid better than multiple. Explain the general situation. Say you want to spend a couple of weekends and part of a weekday with the family at their home to just acclimate to what being around kids is like.

    Youll be able to see the full spectrum of parenting. The cute moments, the tantrums, the learning, the growth, what the parents have to do. Little visits only show a portion of that. A weekend will give the full picture.

    I think you may be over focused on the initial couple of years of babyhood. A two or three year old is starting to be their own lil person. And at four on they are a full person with quirks and talents and everything. I can hang out with them, watch spongebob, go on hikes or go out to eat hamburgers or ice cream. It’s great.
    Of course, that’s paired with responsibility and having to get them dressed and fed and cleaned every morning, but that’s the trade.

    I’ll also say that parenting is a skill. You can be a shit parent of babies but a great parent of teenagers. Or your spouse can be great at one part and you pick up the slack on the other part. So don’t feel like you have to be the super parent that can do everything.