Correct me if I’m wrong, but I’m only now discovering that the Quran never outright bans Muslim women from marrying non-Muslim men (provided that they are people of the book). My whole life I’ve been told Muslim men are allowed to marry non-Muslim women of the book, but the opposite doesn’t apply and is in fact haram. Whole time it doesn’t even say that in the Quran. The Quran just permits men to do so, and mentions that women should not marry disbelievers (but that applies to men too, so that’s kind of irrelevant).

Apparently it’s just the “scholarly interpretation” that Muslim women aren’t allowed to marry non-Muslims the same way men are …likely due to the fact that “men are typically head of the household so a Muslim woman’s faith, as well as her children’s, is more at risk with a non-Muslim husband/father than the other way around” but even with that logic, from a traditional perspective, it still doesn’t even make any sense. Traditionally, women would’ve been expected to stay at home and raise the kids. The children would’ve spent the majority of their time with their MOTHER, meaning the mother would’ve had the greatest impact on teaching the children the correct customs and faith, not the father who they hardly see. Not to mention the fact that this argument doesn’t even hold true these days.

And on top of that, in my experience, Muslim women are much more serious about their faith than Muslim men. When comparing Muslim women to men, you definitely see a higher rate of Muslim MEN committing sins such as drinking, clubbing, Zina, etc compared to women (then again, this could also be due to the fact that Muslim women tend to have stricter rules against them, so they don’t have as much freedom as their male counterparts).

I’m going on too many tangents but y’all get the point. I’ve been fed this lie that the Quran forbids women from doing certain things, when whole time it’s just been scholarly interpretation. I understand that the scholars are more well-versed in Islam than I am, but when are we going to admit that they’re human, prone to error, at the end of the day. More importantly, they’re human MEN most of the time, traditional human men, subject to inherent cultural bias against women.

It’s funny because my whole life I’ve said that I’m comfortable with my faith, but I have a few questions/doubts/critiques on certain rules (such as this one), and it turns out it’s not even a rule Allah made !!