Man here as well. I was sexually assaulted at work. Company did nothing but I did spend some time in a mental ward due to having panic attacks coming back into the office.

Assaulter was a man, never got fired. I was kinda told to deal with it.

I don’t think I’m friends with any rapists but it’s hard to tell. I had a friend that gets like a large number of hits on Tinder and basically hooks up really often with a new chick. One day, he described how he treated one of his girls that he wanted to settle down with, I was a bit horrified. He was saying things like, “she really thought she was at my level, I had to tell her I was number one in this relationship”, “I had to separate her from her friends they were getting on my nerves”. I was like … oh shit, this guy’s a possible abuser. I just kinda stopped hanging out with the dude. That girl did eventually dump him which he was sobbing to me about.

I try to avoid people like that to be honest.

Bluntly, everyone should consider themselves to be a mandatory reporter.

I know the term has a specific legal definition, but if more people adopted that mindset, then maybe there would be fewer rapists walking free…