Didn’t think to check if Lemmy had a CCW community, made this post on reddit but I would like some input from here as well.

Trying to figure out what to buy as an every day conceal carry pistol, and all the usual recommendations I found on here seem to be missing something.

XDM 3.8 has a fairly odd grip, (and I can barely get my pinky on it, somehow.) and it flares out at the bottom even more which to me seems like it would just show through a shirt. I was told removing that mag well and adding a pierce extension to the magazine would make it fit perfectly, not

Glock 29 seems fine mostly, a little thick everywhere but then you hold it and your pinky is just not on the grip at all. Again a mag extension was suggested to make it just barely longer. However Is that not too thick for concealing?

Smith M&P 10mm, the Sig Xten comp, comfy and decent capacity but could either of them be concealed even remotely well? They’re tall and long, and not that much skinnier than the others. I can’t picture in my head how some could be carried without just showing.

All of these I’ve gotten my (relatively small) hands on and nothing seems to fit. Do I have to modify them to make them work better? What am I missing?

And an honorable mention, someone mentioned a Witness P compact. Hammer fired and external safety is cool but unless I am reading something wrong it is the biggest of the bunch. Thoughts?

Please feel free to talk to me like an idiot. Just wanting to find the “right” one for me. Have shot 10mm before, never carried before.