when I think of the word “fetish” I’m thinking about people who are into feet, bdsm, femdom, cuckolding or MDLB. Not someone who just finds X ethnicity more attractive on average than any other ethnicity. Nobody for example is going to say to a white man that he has a white girl fetish simply because he finds white women more attractive on average than any other ethnicity. Because it’s completely understandable that most people prefer to date with their own ethnicity. But the minute that white man finds a black women more attractive on average suddenly that’s fetishization. It’s completely ridiculous.
I always had a thing for certain traits and features often associated with Asian women (no, not the Hollywood kind of Asian women). It doesn’t mean I 'm looking at Asian women with lust in my eyes nor that those traits are exclusive to ‘Asian women’… whatever that means. I mean, I’m French and there is no such thing as a French woman or man.
For me, it just means that very early on (aka, I was still a little boy) I felt more attracted to those traits than to others and I could find them more frequently associated with ‘Asian women’. Where does this attraction comes from? No idea, it just is.
And in case anyone is wondering, nope my spouse is not Asian and we’ve been doing fine for the 25 years and counting we’ve been together ;)